I don’t necessarily like the idea of living in constant fear. I like to pretend that the world is an honest and good place… but let’s get real.
According to the CDC, 1 in 4 women have expereinced sexual violence and 1 in 5 women have expereinced incidents of completed or attemped rape.
I don’t particularly like those odds.
I am someone who is frequently stopped on the street by canvassers, construction workers, and the homeless. Men have gone to great lengths to tell me I’m pretty, including shouting at me or throwing items at me to get my attention. Canvassers had grabbed me or even cornered me in efforts to beckon my attention to their clippboards and causes. They’ve purposely blocked my path as I was walking. I’ve sat on airplanes were men couldn’t seem to close their legs or keep their arms to themselves, no matter how far I was sitting in the aisel or how pressed I was to the window.
Often when I relay these stories, people tell me that I should be careful or that I should have acted differenrlty. This makes me so mad! Men dont avoid living on 1st floor apartments, check the areas around their car and the back seat before entering, or that a buddy system is always activated in dark areas and at night. They don’t have to worry about the fear of being attacked … just because they “look nice.”
However, I do believe in being informed and protecting myself from danger as much as possible, because let’s face it. It’ll be a long time before our society changes…
This episode from Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversation Podcast contains vital information, especially for women. Please click the image below for yourself and for your loved ones.
Always listen to your gut. Your gut is the voice of your higher self.
Never let them take you to a second location.
“It is no question that the culture teaches women to be nice. When you are nice you open up and give information, that you engage with someone you don’t want to talk to, he or she doesn’t walk to let someone in (…) and for fear of being percieved as not nice, he or she opens the door and lets them in. That ultimately leads to a rape.”
“We mist learn and teach our children that being nice does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning.” Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear
Get clear on who the boogie man is. - Often it’s not the people who are advertantly creepy or sleazy, people use the the aura of nicenesss and friendliness
I’m currenlty reading a copy of The Gift of Fear by Gaven De Becker.
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